Blindsided and Lost

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Nate,

I'm right there with you, brother. BTW, been to Calgary and Banff, LOVE the area. Jealous!

Wife has been on a tear lately. The spew is really bad. The closer to the D, the closer to me looking like I'm happy, getting a condo (hopefully - market is red hot by me)... the angrier she gets.

Her bedroom stuff, including clothes and boxes, hasn't moved in 3 months. Yesterday, she says she doesn't feel 'safe' around me or in the house with me. The next evening, she texts me to when I'll be home - and gets angry I'm staying late at work, to make sure we don't have contact together. Ugh. Can't have it both ways, but to a WW, it's her God-given right to be right, to have it all, all the time.

I keep repeating that God's grace is sufficient, and in Him I have strength. Lots of Christian music around the house, even with her in it. She's really angry at our church, even though no one has talked to her, she thinks they're all judging her. Her guilty conscience is just eating her alive... but the fantasy continues, unabated.

I have detached as best as I can, so I'm still here, with the kids, and no more arguments, no more discussions, just a couple sentences here or there about the kids, how the divorce settlement is coming along, and schedules.

The anger and frustration you feel - the hatred you get from your WW - it's all the same with me. It's a VERY common theme.

What I'd like to know - when my WW's fantasy comes to a crashing end, how do they cope with it, and cope with life? My WW has made so many poor choices, burned many a bridge right now, is there any way she can come back?

I know, not my concern, but I do care that she makes it out alive on this one. I'm more coming to the realization that I'll never take my WW back. I think God has bigger plans for me. And someone else in store for me. It just makes the sitch so sad. Cried with my D14 last night - just feel SOOO aweful for the kids. They really are awesome. Very well behaved, great grades, talented...