Thanks. Needed to hear that. I've made all the mistakes early on, but now I'm doing pretty good. Basically, anything she is doing, I'm imagining isn't there/didn't happen. I guess that's the "act as-if" mentality. Its definitely hard to do and not natural, but I'm moving myself in the right direction.
I'll be sure to just come to here instead of saying anything to her.
She did approach me about our M, saying "if you ever need to talk about it/us, let me know". I only said thanks and you do the same. I think I'm right in leaving any talk about us up to her to initiate.
