Okay, maybe i got the meaning of detaching wrong. I thought detach meant to detach my emotions from her. So i'd be less needy, reactive and always thinking of her.
I have been doing things for myself and she has just recently mentioned that she has been looking at me. (She voluntered that information - i didnt ask).
I guess there are a few things i want to do, one of them is something during our M she would never let me do. get a tattoo on my forearm ~ Thoughts? Its something i want but its something she never wanted me to have. Am i just giving her more t spew if i went ahead and did it anyway?
I think detaching does mean being less needy and reactive. It means taking ownership of how you handle your feelings. It means not obsessing about things you can't control (like your wife).
It doesn't mean you don't still love your wife or care about her.
It means making yourself an emotionally whole and healthy person who chooses to be in a relationship with someone else, instead of a person who needs a relationship to be happy.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
