Aftermath

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Journaling since I haven't posted in a while.

So things with GF are going very well and still honest and open with her more than I have ever been with anyone. I can thank XWW for pointing that out to me and giving me the motivation to work on that part of myself. I have found my openness also leads GF to being open with me too. At this point we have covered so many topics in conversation, there is not much we do not know about each other. More over there is nothing that either one of us is afraid to ask the other. This range of openness is certainly not something I am used to and am enjoying greatly. Again, I would have to thank XWW for the help in identifying my downfalls and giving me the motivation to work on my issues. It is paying off greatly in my own happiness.

As far as issues with XWW, yes they are still going on. First off, she is on OM#3. That is ok not my problem. What is my problem or what I am concerned with is who it is. The new OM is S13 Biodad, a multi convicted felon and registered sex offender. She is cleverly trying to remove me from S13's life. What she doesn't realize is the more she tries the more she alienates herself from him and I can see the resentment building in him. On Saturday when I picked him up and he yelled at her when she asked him a question. I have also heard him make comments that I am his real dad not his sperm donor. LOL

One of her attempts is to not allow him to go fishing with a friend. The friend happens to be GF's son. They apparently planned to meet after school and fish. S13 text XWW and asked about going who initially said yes, but when she found out who he was going to be with said no. She explained to S13 that for she believed GF had a plan to take him away from her lol. Well needless to say S13 was p!ssed. These kids have been friends since 2nd grade and its a bit ridiculous on her part.

The next issue is her expectation that I continue to pay her way to and from the tournaments. This weekend will be a three day tournament. I made the hotel reservations and will be driving. Of course so she doesn't have to pay she plans on staying in the same room and riding down with us. I expected that but also plan it will be the last time. She can start getting her own room. But since the floor passes are $25 a day, when she text me about what time we are leaving I asked if she reserved her tickets. She said no and I said she can just buy them when we get there which will make them $30 a day. She then sent text asking if she was allowed in our room. As much as I wanted to say no, I knew she would then not allow S13 to go, I said yes. She obviously was not happy I am going to make her pay for her tickets. Sure she will not be happy when she has to pay her own meals too. I am sure she feels that she is getting over on me by me paying for all of S13's sport but she is not clever enough to figure out I am doing it for him, not her.

Then there is her having sex with these guys when both boys can clearly hear it. I know that S13 has said something about it to her but apparently she does not care because according S13 it has not stopped. Nothing really I can do about it but can bring it up at custody if need be.

Finally, there XWW and XMIL still posting on social media. XWW postings are damaging her own reputation. I was asked about it by a person we know through sport that lives some ways away. Can't say I really care about her reputation. She can destroy it for all I care. XMIL continues to post about me as well. Still the calling of names and a post to her that read "congrats on your divorce! We always did hate him." LOL Again can't say it bothers me at all. Sometimes when I am in a bad mood I think I should post a response but then think nah that gives her the rise she wants out of me. In a good mood I just laugh about it. My own improvement is that I never look unless someone mentions it to me and then just out of curiosity.

So that is the update...