2T, thanks for sharing “the insight into MLC mind”. It is very interesting and very telling… about what’s going on in their minds indeed. Good for you for being honest with him and telling him what you’ve been feeling and thinking.

My impression from this is that he is still in Replay, but it is not giving him what he’s been looking for. He is trying all kind of activities and new things in hopes that he will find the answer for never ending happiness and passion (sigh…) I agree with Job, that if you have enough patience and are willing to give it some more time, you might see this through. I’m in a sort of a similar boat in terms of not being in a hurry with a D and giving this sitch some more time. Except my situation is different since H doesn’t come “home” to spend some time with me and family. We just have a business together, even though my part is not related to his and vice versa. However, I can relate how he is just like your H is not seeing any way to rekindle the R, probably having some guilt, and yes, has no passion…

It is interesting that your H realizes that some of his buddies (groups) behavior is ridiculous. And weight lifting is just “something to do”, LOL. Job is spot on, as always smile that he is not having as much fun as he pretends to have or would like to have.

2T, congratulations on hitting the item on our list with the mall shopping! I think you are doing great. I will be taking a page out of your book in case I need to have an honest conversation with my H about the state of the affair… At some point this needs to happen. I mean the conversation and the rest.

M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state