GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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Melo & Rose8888.

Thanks for your post. I must say I really need to be thankful. I spent some time today ready a few other people's posts today and I realize how lucky I have it. I read many stories of people who are struggling with affairs, long distances, interfering relatives, blood thirsty lawyers, etc, etc.

My W and I are not at each other's throats. We spend time together as family and have a very nice time. We eat most family meals together and we do not have any real/scary fights. The only real tension is about money and our past hurts. And we have not been to see lawyers. The inhouse Sep was at first torture and now it's quite calm. I do think her detachment and my increased confidence has really been the formula. And for me quite hopeful.

I need to say right here - my increased confidence is not because of anything I've done. It's totally because of my asking God to change and shape me.

Yes, Melo I am looking for her reaction or non reaction. I've read DB and DR a few times and MWD says many times do the opposite, change anything, keep making changes, monitor results. That is what I've been doing and it has chipped away at her resolve.

Rose888 - yes, now it is getting super frustrating. She see's I'm making changes and she really is having a hard time saying to herself I'll never change as she see's I'm GAL and moving ahead. But, I've run out of road. The house projects are done, my motorcycle is coming this week, she got her dream job - so the end or the beginning is coming close. I'm ready for her to leave and if she goes it's all on her. So now talking about budgets and past R issues are much closer and bigger.

So yes, it's super frustrating. But, I'm up for the challenge. I just need some creative ideas.

Melo you are right - if I was being phony everyone could see it a mile away. But, I know what I have done for the past 48 years has not worked. So I'm trying to throw out that book and do almost anything new.

So who has some good ideas? I'd really like some "game changer" ideas. MWD says change anything - I'm willing to try. As I said, I'm on the right path. I've had some setbacks - but I'm moving ahead, for me, my kids and hopefully for her.