Man, that's a rough story. Listen to Lim and the advice you have received. KEEP POSTING, it is therapeutic and good to get as much advise as possible. SEE A LAWYER ASAP!! You can probably get a consultation for free or fairly cheap. You need to know what to do to protect yourself and your child.
Your WW will be a selfish little brat when you don't do exactly what she wants you to do. That is OK. She wants you to give her gas money so she can drive the OM to work, give me a f@#$ing break. Listen to me, She doesn't respect you now. She will need to respect you before you have a chance at a R in the future. Set boundaries. Not to punish her, but to protect you and your child. READ SANDI2's post on a wayward wife. Read any and everything she posts.
In my state you can get a temporary restraining order to keep the OM from being around your child. Cost some cash for the L, but it might be worth it.
