Phoebe and Blu, thanks so much for the good thoughts!
Honestly, in the past, H has put more effort into this area. I've been selfish and clueless. It's a bad combination. I have had my "come to Jesus" moment and have seen my failures in this area.
Also, several weeks ago, right after BD, I wrote H a letter about this issue, and I can see that he is acting on some of what I said in that letter. He is willing to make changes.
This isn't to say that the problem is all mine, but I own the lion's share of this issue. (I would say that he owns the lion's share of the depression issue.) The communication issue we share equally.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
