Hi Vanilla and ? DBers, I was reading the Going Dark thread today and now feel a bit torn and confused. I have been the pursuer. I would guess he is a bit astounded that I haven't sent letters, tried to see him, and responded to his initiated emails in brief and friendly tone, with ZERO mention of the fight we had that led to his departure, or the future or anything that would be construed as 'pursuing'. It's now just over 3 weeks since he moved out. In one email he did say 'I'm glad we can be friends' after I'd said - as suggested by my DB coach - I respect your need for space right now. Neither of us have used the D word. I do not want to give him the impression though that I don't care and that I don't want to get back together. Right now I am being completely undemanding in any way. Have not seen each other in person yet. No way would I say anything like that in an email. Any thoughts? this is a man who wrote in a note and email a couple days after fight that he was 'done' and who is the distancer, while I have been the pursuer, which is sadly the dynamic that led to the fight. oh dear lord.
