Thanks yeah what I meant on exposing privately is that my friends and family know but they aren't saying anything to W about knowing. In fact they aren't even acknowledging we are separated when they talk to W as W didn't want to share that and the separation is currently only temporary. Public for me, means having them talk to her about it.
I think if she decides on a more permanent separation, IE signing a lease or moving in with OM then I'll be more open about the separation and possibly have them expose to her that they know.
Right now she's just going week by week...
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17