In terms of baby steps, I think I'll wing it until I can see real objectives coming to the fore.
Thats kind of what I thought. It comes across like you are going to keep doing as you feel and hope that you catch on something/anything that initiates some spark in your W to either file for D herself or make some change.
It isnt that easy.
Theres no magic bullet. Theres no special trick. It's weeks/months of measured, consistent behavioral change. Thats your best bet.
To do that, it starts with you. It starts by looking inside and making your own changes. You say you want to "improve yourself". How can you do that by "winging it"? How do you even know what to improve? Youre going to discipline your son? I dont think thats all thats needed here......
Originally Posted By: DDJ
I'm seeing every interaction with my WW as a chance to detach, validate, affirm or lose control.
No. Your whole life is a chance to detach, validate, affirm, and lose control.
Your interactions with your wife are opportunities to showcase your changes.
These are life skills. Not only skills to mend relationships.
