Starting to do things right?

[PacLove]

So all in all the weekend away was good (I know some of you were against it but I had a good time). It might have set us further back but W was pleasant to me and treated me to an amazing birthday weekend. No physical interaction (other than she held my hand Saturday for a bit as we went to sleep) and lots of validation of her feelings. No R talk and no A talk.

But things are back to normal today, she's sleeping at her rental place tonight. Some of the conversation over the weekend definitely indicated MLC trends, she avoided most phone texting (Even left the phone at the hotel or in her purse numerous times).

I know that we can't move forward if the A is still active which I believe it is as she spent the night there last week... so herein lies my current dilemma. I'm back to contemplating exposure vs. waiting it out (with the risk it gets more involved)

I thought I read somewhere that MWD supports limited exposure, there definitely seems to be split camps here.

Pros:
- Bring light to A
- May get it to end

Cons:
- W will be really upset
- could drive her away more
- believe she may be seeing some value to the R (especially after this weekend)

Who would I tell if I did expose?
OW - have her FB contact
his Mom - have her FB contact
my Wifes' BF - this one's risky, she was burnt by an A and is recently divorced, not sure she'd be pro M or not. I've also remained friends with her H and I don't think she's too happy about that. On the other hand, she knows exactly how a Betrayed spouse feels.


The Christian side of me says be patient... the impulsive side of me says expose so I can move forward one way or another...