GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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Rose888:

Thanks for your post. It's been a few days (4 or 5). She proposed that we meet daily for 30 min to talk about $, kids, house, etc. It's a stupid pattern that I can't seem to come up with a creative way to break. She suggested we do this, I have to nag her - then we start again. If I just go about my merry way - then its me being pushy, irresponsible, reckless, etc. Then I get flack for spending too much etc. But, she won't build and track a budget with me either.

You are right - she is wrestling with things in her own head. And she is detached and unhealthy involved in her work and online communities to the expense of everything else. She is hiding from the reality of leaving and staying. As Sandi2, Cadet and the others say she is having her cake and eating it too.

Many of my GAL and 180 tactics have been working. I'm just struggling on this one.