It might have nothing to do with you. Maybe she's wrestling with things in her own head and that is making her too inwardly focused to engage.
My only suggestion is to completely kill the R talk and see if that make a difference.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
