How to rekindle love?

[Rose888]

H came back from his trip late last night and said he has made his decision--he wants to stay in the marriage and try to reconnect. He said there are some things we need to work on, and he will go to counseling.

Being open to counseling is huge.

I meet with my IC this morning. I'm going to ask her for recommendations for marriage counsellors.

I am very happy about this, but I know I still need many of the DB techniques. It sounds like the first emotions to penetrate the numbness are frustration, anger, etc., so I am going to need mad validation skills. (He hasn't actually said anything angry or frustrated, but he mentioned those feelings when I asked him how he decided.)