Hi Ghost, you are certainly making progress from your recent postings. I would agree with others that you are in no way ready to consider meeting someone else. At this point, you are still living in the same house with your W and hoping to save the M. 'Ready' to me looks like D and with some time to recover after that. Or at the very least it looks like S and working towards D, plus having given up hope for the M being restored.
I'm not saying that your sitch will go to any of these places - only that like so many of us you aren't ready yet and I don't believe you would attract an emotionally healthy woman given present sitch circumstances.
You have been doing some good stuff and I would stick with it with the fitness - that's a big win for you. Plus, great that things have been going well with the kids.
If you can drop the 'wife-pleasing' stuff and just have a neutral, neighbourly approach. Plus, keep building your own life and GAL (tho not the female/nightclub variety) - this is the best way I think.
Take care - you're doing well my friend x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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