Your last sentence is the problem... you DO have a say in what you allow in your head. That last sentence essentially said to me that WAW still has power over you. This is precisely what I am trying to say here...you need to refocus your "head" on you. Act indifferent about the divorce...and do things and THINK about things for yourself. Then the spinning head she's inducing will be gone.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14