5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.

[Natus]

update:

So the spanking and direct confrontation with OM seems to have killed the EA. That and taking away their primary means of secretly communication with each other.

At the office they are scrutinized and my sources have confirmed the OM is keeping his distance. While this is good im still pushing for the job change since my W offered.

We live in a small country so keeping tabs is easy plus her office are mostly married and i hate to say it same race as me and my wife whereas the OM is of different minority. So there is a racism factor that is involved that works to my favour in making sure OM keeps his distance in the office. Im loathe to say it but Yaay for racism?!?

W has communicated her intention to be faithful but I am following Sandhi's rule, Believe none what they say and 50% what the do. We both acknowledge however this does not fix our marriage.

So now im alittle confused on what my next step is, i would DB but i am also ensuring the EA is dead, dead, dead. Suffocated, beaten and left to rot dead. Heavy handed yes but hey its gotten through to my W.

Side musings:
Im trying to imagine if i could have handled it differently, im referring to the spanking. I can honestly imagine i cannot. Maybe its my upbringing, even today spanking kids are allowed in my society ~ its not common anymore but it is not frowned upon either.

I want to ask my father about this but to my knowledge he has never raised his hand to my mother yet my mother would never disrespect my dad that way either. Were it vice versa i know my mum has said she would cut off his balls if he tried cheating sooo maybe the are just a pair in this.

I know if i bring it up to W parents they would side with me. Its would probably break W's mums heart to know her daughter has been acting this way.

At the core of it i feel guilty for what i did but at the same time i cannot imagine doing it any other way. I don't believe in soft touch / approach for such a gross offense.