You need to quit sitting around the house being the left behind spouse. Start going on yourself and having fun. There is plenty of opportunity for that. If you sit around the house sulking about your relationship, that is going to be very unattractive to your W. She's hanging out with fun people that are out partying. You're sitting around the house in a funk. You need to flip that script. Go out with friends, if no friends, go to meetups for things you're interested in. Go have coffee or dinner with a lady friend. It'll work. I promise. I know what I'm talking about. Not only will you feel way better but your wife will definitely take notice. Doing this may end up transforming you from the pursuer to the pursued. I enjoyed my new self so much that when my wife snapped out of it and started pursuing me, I was like "no thanks". I was having too much fun. The script was totally flipped because I stopped sitting around the house feeling sorry for myself and started living.
