Quote: So If my W does not make an appointment in the next 2 weeks I will be taking the bull by the horns.
Why wait 2 weeks? If she IS depressed (and it seems likely), then she will probably NOT make an appointment on her own, and it would be an act of love on your part (not to mention integrity) for you to make it. Waiting 2 whole weeks when you're already pretty sure of what will happen (nothing) doesn't sound very productive. When my crisis came, back in March, and W indicated she would be willing to see a C, I expected action right away, and made sure it happened.
You would think that would be the best action is to go out and do and show it as an act of love. The problem is when I do these things my W does not see them as an act of love. She sees them as me trying to control the situation and not giving her the room to make her own decisions. the Reason I know is becuase she has told me this before. Waiting 2 weeks will then allow me to say that actions have taken place so I then do it. Then she can't come back at me that I am trying to control her with the C that I am picking. So that is the reasoning behind this.
Lee~ This sounds like a good plan. I think depression has affected many a M in a negative way. I am so glad you are addressing this!
Hang in there!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
