Hi Vanilla, Well I'l be darn - I was just watching Brene Brown speaking on shame. Going to get her books and get a grip on this 'not enough' stuff. Yeah, my ACE score is 6. I should be a suicidal depressed alcoholic by now that is grossly overweight. thankfully I am none of those things. at least not today! I was lucky to also have many factors in my childhood and teen years that balanced out the chaos of the alcoholic home life - school and sports were my refuge. Today I am pondering the concept of 'detaching' and 'boundaries'. Have never known what they were really. At least I am becoming aware of the work to be done. Trying to balance out the shame with empathy for myself and the part of me who was the scared little girl trying to control the uncontrollable. As Brene Brown says shame cannot survive with empathy! Thanks for your post and helpful thoughts.
