Hey Huddy, glad to see others have chimed in already with sage advice and thanks for kindly visiting on my thread.

Asking about each other's day is quite different to conveying medical updates about the kids. There should be no need for you to 'ask about her day' in order to get this info. That part isn't about you and she, but about you both as parents being able to do the best job possible, and with all required info.

As for feeling you are doing everything and all is as it is - I think it pays to remember that DBing truly is primarily to save us - and may or may not save the R at some point down the line. The main thing is to be living the kind of life you want to live (given all circumstances) and to be the kind of man you want to be. If you are doing those things, I don't think you can ever lose - however things may ultimately unfold.

Hope your D is all better now and you get a better sleep tonight smile x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus