@darknes,yes I cannot change her perspective. I've gotta keep my green apple and make sure it flourishes. She can do what she wants with the red apple. I was validating so well, but just went too far and let my love blind me.
Yeah, have decided that if she wants to go out and enjoy the single life tonight that I cannot treat her as though she is married. That is not to punish her,but to protect me from the pain that is about to come. Is that a good boundary? I cannot stop her, but I need to protect myself.
@Rose,yeah, thought delusionally that I was getting through. Darknes, is right. Gotta focus on me.
If she does go out and enjoy the single life then I'm also going to tell her that she mustn't come with to vic falls. Not before, but afterwards.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
