It probably does come across as lecturing, except I use specific examples to explain selfishness, just like a real lecturer... Only problem is that you can lead a horse to water but you can't force them to drink.
So Im thinking about the last few days, how soft she's gotten, but still talking about getting a D. And it dawns upon me that she's actually cake eating. Oh yes, she gets the joys of going out when she wants with who she wants, and still stays married. I refuse to give her rope to hang myself with. Gotta drop it again.
Gotta commend her tho, she is good. Gotta stick to my plan but need to go dark again.
Using specific examples doesn't mean it's not lecturing, and it doesn't make it attractive or effective.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16