Having an alcoholic mother is a tough gig. Very tough.
Being with an addict creates a great deal of disharmony in a child's life, feelings of insecurity and a sense that life is uncertain. Children sometimes try to prevent an adult from drinking or think their own behaviour is a cause. In other cases they appease and become codependent or enabling, even conspiring with the alcoholic to hide the problem.
It's a setup for shame. In addition it can create a comfort zone in which future relationships are maintained. Chosing partners or finding sitches which match the childhood FOO. If the life partner doesn't cooperate then disharmony and dissonance. Discomfort in the R. That's the way I think of it.
Addiction is a major ACE factor. You are sensible to heal it, completely.
Hugs
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
