Moving Ahead in UK - pt17 - been here so long!

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This is a shout out to sandi2 in particular, but I'm keen to hear from anybody else from the 'old timers' circle.

I have the kids this weekend. We've had fun, and went on a big trip to Glasgow to go to the Lego store to pick up some bricks for my D who loves it. My S (who is autistic) doesn't really bother with toys, but loves to go on the bus/train, so we went on the Glasgow Subway as his treat. As another treat, we went to the fish and chip shop!

All OK until 0100 this morning, when D was as sick as a dog. After I cleaned up etc., I texted W to let her know and asked her to call me in the morning. I stayed up all night as D was poorly another two times - I'm knackered!

Instead of calling, W TEXTED three times to ask questions this morning instead of calling. In response, I called her because D wanted to talk to her.

I asked W why she hadn't called, and she said 'I was busy'. I was angry at this and asked what was so important that she couldn't be bothered to call her D? W had a phone conversation with D and then passes it back to me. She then asked how S had been. I told her he had had some 'meltdowns' (a symptom of autism, unfortunately) and she then said 'well,if you asked about him, you'd know he has been diagnosed with ADHD and I've got an appointment on XXth of May to see about his new medication'. I said that it was up to her to tell when these things happen. She responded with 'well, you never ask how my day has been'. I responded with you never ask how my day is and she said 'I don't care how your day has been'. The conversation kind of ended with me saying she needn't come early for the kids and she said 'well, what time' and I responded with the normal time as I had things to do and was busy myself (I'm only going to the gym - but she doesn't know that).

So, I'm asking for advice, again! Unfortunately, I've been here so long, I kind of know the tricks a WW/WAW pulls. Most of the above is shifting guilt to me (I should ask how her day went etc.) but, I just can't see any light here at all. She is cold, totally unloving and when she talks to me, it's as if she hates me. I've followed all the rules since we 'split' properly in December, but I just can't see how she can't see changes in me, see how much I care for the kids, how well I've detatched, but the bitterness burns bright and I don't know why.

Have I missed a rule or technique that I should have followed? Is this still the 'Princess' behaviour in action, after so long? I don't normally bother sandi2 - she's busy with newbies, but surely this behaviour can't last this long without any form of remorse?

I probably shouldn't ask for advice - I haven't been giving any as I feel I can't give any hope to any newbies, so I don't really deserve any.

Just feeling a bit down right now. One of those days!