Hey RD, good to hear from you and thanks for your kind post on my thread. sounds like you've been doing some fun stuff with the kids and I had to laugh at the two tissues sewn together line - well, hopefully they are man size and 3 ply ones!

It sounds like life moves along for the family with limited involvement from your W - and it's nice that you have little 'projects/activities' going on with each of the kids. Hope you manage to find a nice spot for another trip in the sun too.

Interesting chats with your W. If my H was telling me all what you posted, I'd be thinking - hey, he's regretting his choice and wants us to get back together here. When she says - I can see you've moved on and I guess I'll have to do the same - is she hoping you may say....perhaps we could try again?

She still doesn't sound in a great place - looking for external factors - maybe I should have a brain scan etc. But it sounds as though the cogs are very much turning for her. You've been at this a similar time to me my friend - difference being D is just around the corner for me - but what do you want to to at this point? Would you be willing to open the door a little and see what happens. Truly I understand the hurt as you know. But equally, you guys have been married a long time and have 4 kids together....

Anyway - just my thoughts - and I shall be your chum no matter what.... smile xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus