Well, my W has been flip flopping on the baby thing one day she wants one and the next she doesn't. I really don't know what is going on in her head about that. I wish I could just get inside that thing and find out what she is really thinking. It would be great.
I have been seeing some progress in the ML department. She doesn't seem to be totally put off by that kind of talk. Or even physical touch. I wish I had more to share but I can't think of anything else.
Lee, I really strongly recommend you get the R issues straightened out before making ANY decisions on having another baby. Adding another member to the family will NOT help the M (in and of itself)...
There will be no babies till we get this thing fixed. She knows my feelings on this. I have told her I am very open to a baby when we get this fixed. I think that is why she is flip flopping so much is becuase some days are good and some aren't great.
Lee, thanks for the clarification - your position wasn't clear from your post. I think that's a VERY good boundary position - it'll force her to confront herself on the R issues and "get her house in order" if she wants another child... Good luck, and keep us posted!
I was thinking about this. What is better to feel lonely when you have a wife. Or to feel lonely when you live by yourself.
I have come to the conclusion that it would be easier to deal with when there is no one there. Becuse if there is someone around it makes you long for them to be around. Right now my W is not that person.
If you can't tell this is a vent post. Im just so tired of hearing I don't want to be touched I don't want to give you a kiss, I don't want to hug you, I just dont like to be touched. It is so very hard.
Have you made it plainly clear that you want to have a passionate marriage with her? If you have, then SHE must overcome her own problems. If she chooses not to fix the problems, then you have a decision to make, do you want a passionate marraige, or do you want her?
Quote: What is better to feel lonely when you have a wife. Or to feel lonely when you live by yourself.
This is a really good question. I guess we can all answer it in different ways depending on our current sitch!
I think it is good that you come here to vent. Better than venting to W!!
Any news on the baby front? Is she still talking about it??
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
This weekend just plain stunk. The last 5 or so days my W has been very distant. I pretty have just let her not pushing her to do something she is not ready to do. But I have been hoping that she would pull out of the funk for the weekend. Saturday was pretty uneventful. Watched some movies together then just went to bed. Nothing happened.
Sunday started out as a good day we were heading to see Shrek 2. By the way it is really good. Afterwards we are talking about going and getting something to eat as we are driving home. My W starts in about how bad my driving is and I am a bad driver. I tell her that I am tired of hearing every time I don't drive the exact way she wants me to and would she stop it. That is when she got pissed, and told me that she would stop as soon as I started driving better. My thought on this is why the HELL are we arguing about my driving at all. I say well then you can freaking drive if you are such a great driver which you are NOT. By this time im just pissed and stop talking so we drive home and she has been mad ever since.
I really am starting to find that I am really tired of this that we are just spinning our wheels maybe it is time to get a D. The only thing that is stopping me is our D.
No there is no baby talk lately it has been about a month since she said anything on it. But then again we don't really need to worry about that much. Its hard to make a baby when you aren't ML.
