Jazz good work, you're doing great! I Think you can already see a change in her so keep up what you're going.
However, to me it still seems like she's trying to draw you back in and cake walk.
Remember that detaching is more for you than it is for the R. While the first couple of weeks of detaching were extremely difficult for me, my head started to clear and peace entered my mind body and soul.
Also remember that going dark doesn't eclipse (pardon the analogy) your obligation to respond to her in a reasonably timely fashion when it's about kids and maybe finances. I give myself a 3h turnaround time for kids and 24h for financials.
Keep up the good work brother!
Me37 W33 T:8 M:5 D3 BD 11/2015 EA+PA w boss 12/2015 S 3/2016
Im stronger because I had to be Im smarter because of my mistakes happier because of the sadness Ive known and now wiser because I learned
