5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.

[Natus]

Thank you Sandi. I will not doubt your wisdom again.When you described previously was true and i did not want to believe them then, I believed through everything my wife was still trustworthy and aboveboard. She will not have that benefit of a doubt now.

I had put together a rough tranparency plan together for both OM and my wife. They had agreed to it and i have OM's wifes buy in. I will need to work more on this.

I gotta agree with Rose.... Sorry to be blunt but your plan sounds as though you are physically and emotionally brow beating her to stay with you. Maybe I am not so caught up on your thread that I am misunderstanding?

Is that from the Islamic tradition in Brunei?

Where i am from respect for you family, parents, elders and marriage is deeply rooted. Its not just a Brunei thing, its an asian culture. Marriage is put up there on a holy pedestal, along with respect of elders and parents etc. We do not have a cavalier attitude to marriage and infidelity like more western countries.

She lied then carried on with a man in public ~ a gross disrespect to our marriage and to me as her husband. In fact a taboo in the eyes of the public. It couldnt go unpunished. Could i have handled it differently? sure. I suppose.

I did not spank her to make her stay.

Rose: The chat i screenshot was purely the OM messaging my wife. So it looks like he is the douche pursuing my wife. As he is the branch manager of her office i feel very happy today he is going to walk in to office and everyone knows what hes up to. So yea that was more for me and to bring his reputation down a notch. Childish sure. Satisfying Yes.