Sorry you are here but there is good help for you. Have you gotten the book yet? If not, get it and read it. Keep it to yourself. It is not for sharing with her. You need to go straight to the LRT. You need to detach, 180 and GAL. You need to start doing all these things pronto. You also need to set boundaries and come down hard on her. I don't mean to treat her cruelly or with anger but you should not tolerate this behavior in any shape, form or fashion. Cut her off financially immediately. Go to a lawyer and get some help with your kid. She can't keep you away from your child. Do not do ANYTHING for her. You need to find it in yourself to dump her and begin moving on with your life. This is counterintuitive but this is exactly what needs to be done if you want a shot at saving your M.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
