Need advice

[CRW]

Nothing specific, for example, today she said I didn't talk to her enough about what I have for clothes vs what she has for clothes for them. Most of the time it seems like stuff that is pretty trivial I guess.

It feels like we both are maybe using the kids as our 'hook' to keep in touch with the other. I've got to keep working on not doing that.

[Rose888]

That actually doesn't sound at all trivial to me. The management of kids' clothes and shoes is one of the unpleasant tasks of parenthood. The thought of having to manage it across multiple houses makes me shudder--and my youngest is 10!

And it's not like my kids are fashion plates. Nowhere close to it.

[CRW]

To clarify, I mean keep not using the kids as a hook. I have been very successful at doing that this week.

[CRW]

Funny thing, remember how last week she was going off on me texting her after 8:30 about the kids? Tonight she texted me 3 times after 8:30.

I really feel like this process is starting to work.

[Phoebe]

Excellent! I remember reading your whole text conversation with her a few days ago and feeling really badly for you. I'm glad you're seeing some positive changes, CRW.

[CRW]

She called us first thing this morning to see how things were going. She's never done that before.

[CRW]

So I pushed things a little tonight, made a couple 'flirty' remarks to her, which seemed well received. I hope I am not setting myself up for failure, but I actually see some light at the end of this tunnel.

[CRW]

To clarify, I still am not initiating anything, I was just talking about in my responses.

[sandi2]

Why the flirty remarks?

[CRW]

It was more about wanting her to smile some when she talks or hears from me. And when I say flirty, I should say more like playful. But I'm not initiating anything, nut adding what she is doing, etc etc.