Are the following things getting you closer or farther from them? - saying "I am not in love with you either, i've been killing those feelings for the last month." - continuing to hug and kiss - sending controlling text messages
It reads to me like you think you can control her/this. You keep telling her YOUR plan like she NEEDS to do the same thing. Al you are doing is pushing her away. Just let her do her own thing. Set your boundaries and protect yourself. But stop trying to put your boundaries around her.
I wasnt telling you to put your foot down. I was tying to understand what it meant. If you think sending these bossy, demanding, guilting TMs is "putting your foot down" effectively, I have to disagree.
Set boundaries around you. Protect yourself. Those are the keys. She is out while your son wants to go to bed? Say "Sorry, mommy's out now. Lets do something awesome instead before bedtime." Telling her what you think is or isnt acceptable is a waste of your breath....she isnt listening anyway.
