WOW ........ Lee how old are your children now? If you feel strongly about it, you really should talk to her about it all. Maybe just calmly explain how you feel about it. Good Luck Annette
Yeah, Lee. Sounds like a new baby is just what you two need. NOT. My wife wanted to adopt a 2nd daughter, but she hasn't pushed it much lately. I have no intention of bringing another child into our sterile home where the idea of intimacy between H and W is routinely shot down. Counseling for one kid is enough of an investment for me.
Well my take on this is hopefully she will change her mind again. She has changed it back and forth about 100 times in the last couple of months. So really I don't know where her head is. I really think she is depressed. The problem with this is you can't tell a person who is depressed they are depressed becuase they won't believe you.
The other thing is she is looking that pill that fixes everything. Her wieght, her life and so on. It took me a long time to realize that only hard work fixes these things.
Quote: WOW ........ Lee how old are your children now? We have a D that is almost 7 now. If you feel strongly about it, you really should talk to her about it all. Im worried that she will think im controlling with this becuase she knows I would like another. I really don't want to come across that way again that is what almost ended it last time. Maybe just calmly explain how you feel about it. Good Luck Annette
Oh man, I hate to say it but by virtue of the fact that you are at this site tells me that you abso-f'in-lutely should not have another. 2 years ago, my W brought this up and stupidly said "duh...ok" thinking that a little more LM would be fun. Lucky for us, she (being the LD wench), only decided to try it with me when she knew that she was at her peak ovulation time. That right there should have been a clear message to me not to do it...she was treating me like a sperm donor. (note: I'm getting really upset now because I never looked at it this way). Anyway, my mountain biking and daily "dates" with the "Fab 5" pretty much kept me sterile. If I believed in an "intervening God", then I would say that a higher power saw that we "shouldn't" have any more and made the decision for us.
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Lee, I have to agree with the others. I would (as gently as you can) explain to her that you feel that working on your relationship with her, plus her medical issues, should take precedence and then you can tackle having another child.
I'm sure she will see it as a power play. In a way, it is. But it is one that should be made. Bringing a life into the world is serious business! So do whatever you have to do and put up with whatever fallout happens, but don't make a dumb decision just because you want her to be happy.
GOOD LUCK, I sympathize with you so much Lee. I hope she starts to feel better and gets into a good groove soon.
Well I go do some training for 3 weeks, and now I can't keep up. Just wanted to update everyone. I have been on a bit of a roller coaster on this some weeks are good some are not so good. My W and I have been talking about this lately. She seems to be getting it a little. Realizing that this isn't just about me getting my rocks off. So I hope that continues. I hope everyone is doing ok I am trying to catch up to you all.
Hey Lee! Sorry I lost track of you! Thanks for stopping by my thread!
Now, if I'm not mistaken.....the last time I left off....months ago....your W wanted a baby.......am I right on this??
Is there a pattern to this??
I realized a long time ago that a baby woudn't "fix" my M, in fact it would complicate things even further!
Can you validate her desire for another child, but ask for soem changes first? You have to be careful not to let it look like a power play, like Honeypot said!
Glad to back in touch with you, Lee!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
