You were right Sandi. After the "intervention" they were at it again. I found out with proof tonight.
Two days after W reassured me nothing was going on apart from work that i was being paranoid. I found out today they went out to lunch just the two of them. The only reason i knew was i had a meeting near her office.
I went further than just No More Mr Nice Guy tonight. Enraged that she would play me i growled at her that i was not her friend that i was her husband. Then i brought her to the bedroom away from my son, bent her over my knee and spanked her til she started calling me her husband again. I then made her explain the secret password on her phones and text.
Its almost like watching a kid get caught doing something bad, she acknowledge why she hid her messages behind a password and that she felt that it was wrong,
She looked guilty and remorseful for the rest of the night. At dinner she handed over her passwords and offered to change jobs.
Unfortunately the OM had sent her texts which i now can see with her passwords. I went to find the OM.
Thankfully i had a friend with me that calmed me down. I was able to talk to the OM without trying to kill him. His wife was by his side while i lectured him. She was particularly happy when i told him to start respecting his own wife and two children and stop chasing mine.
I am a pretty intense and intimidating person, my friend was worried i was getting really edgy and looked like i was about to go to town but i held it together and told him this is the one only and absolutely last warning. If he continues to chase my wife i would have to file a report with religious authorities, he could lose his job.
I screenshot his text to my wife and sent it to their groupchat so now their whole office knows hes trying to get with my W. I dont know why i did it but atleast they will never be able to be alone together at the office now.
So yeah thats my night. Lets see how it goes next couple of days.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.