Hi Melweb, I'm glad you had that convo on your terms and were strong throughout. I'm always a little wary of posting - I think you made the right decision - because am I just trying to reinforce my own earlier decision.....but anyway - I think you made the right decision!
You know already that your H will continue to try and keep you 'hooked in' and will be in touch with OW covertly. From the very bottom of my heart, I knew that wasn't something I could live with. And I understand why you would do this for your own health and sanity. Those are the top level priorities here - your own health and sanity, your family and finances. If we can all come through to the other side with these things intact and good PMA - it's a win - however things ultimately unfold with your H.
I just posted in my sitch - well, if he wants to grab the wooden spoon instead of first raffle prize (moi ) well that's up to him. I hope you can feel the same way about your own situation, and start making some lovely plans for yourself.
Take care xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
) well that's up to him. I hope you can feel the same way about your own situation, and start making some lovely plans for yourself.