So, I took a little break from this forum because I feel like I let myself get too wrapped up in it sometimes.
H is still planning to go ahead with separation and telling friends and family.
I have talked to my DB coach a few more times. She always suggests trying to connect with him in some small ways. She suggested inviting him out to lunch. Since he is never home this was tough. We work too far apart monday to friday and on weekends he does not come home at night, usually showing up around 1:30 pm only to shower and change and disappear again till the next afternoon. So last sunday morning I sent him a text inviting him out to breakfast. I am pretty sure he blew off the text. Heard from him two hours later (far after the stated meet time) Said he did not see it right away. This is a many who's phone is surgically attached to his hand 24 hours a day. (eye roll).
H did agree to go to a preplanned weekend away for a very close friend's birthday. Separate beds of course. As my DB coach suggested trying to break down the very thick barriers he puts up, I made a speech about hoping we can be friends and still spend time together peacefully when need be. He accepted my offer of friendship only, so hopefully this weekend will be a little more relaxed, as we will pretty much be in each other's faces for the next two and a half days.
H is not backing down an inch on wanting out of the relationship. He is still living in the same house with me though. So now I feel like my only shot is getting him to somehow break down and warm back up to me.
