A New Chapter

[Painter]

Lousy conversation with H. I didn't validate at all, just got defensive.

We were talking about the shipment of some boxes and a couple of other practical things, and it was calm, but as usual there were some communication difficulties. He said something about packing my things in a room where I knew there was nothing besides his stuff when I left, but it turned out he meant he had carried some kitchen things in there to pack up, but that is not even what's being shipped now - it's supposed to go to storage, so it started out with some confusion. I explained why I got confused and it was fine. This is typical for our conversations - I don't always understand what he means, because he explains things as if I were there in the room with him.

He had fedexed me the paperwork to sign the house over to him. I got it yesterday. When I told him that, he started getting loud and bullying about how it was in the agreement that it was supposed to 'be in his hands' or 'delivered to him' by May 1st. He completely made that up, and I said 'no, that is not true' very clearly for each of the claims. It's supposed to be signed by May 1st, which is on Sunday, and I already told him it just arrived yesterday. Finally, I told him to just take me to court, if it was such a big deal. He calmed down and backed off. I mentioned how *my* L gave him a month more to get some of his part done, and I wouldn't have made a stink if he couldn't do it by then.

After that, we discussed some other issues, I told him I would pay off my part of a loan he is stuck with according to the agreement, and he asked how I would manage that, so I reluctantly told him about the job (he asked if I got one). Thankfully, he didn't go off about the alimony as I feared, just congratulated me.

Afterwards, I felt so bad about his demanding and confrontational attitude that I sent him a text and quoted what it says in the agreement about the deed, and that I didn't understand why he was acting so hostile about something that wasn't even a disagreement - and that it was very hurtful that he couldn't wait a minute to get rid of me.