"Mom", If you can hold off a bit longer in telling your parents, I would. You don't want to spoil Mother's Day for your mother and right now, everything is still up in the air, i.e., he's home and still communicating w/you for the most part.
Also, do not ask him if he's seen a lawyer...you are planting seeds in his head and you do not need to help him water them. I would advise you to seek the advice of a lawyer, just so you know what your rights are...but do not tell him what you've learned. This info is for you and your children.
Overall, your conversations w/him in the last 24 hours went well...but you now need to step back and give him the space and time to digest what he has been given in the way of info. There is no need to rush things. The ow...no more talk of her. All you are doing is pushing him closer to him by doing so, i.e., regardless of whether they are friends or not.
Now, it's time to focus on you and your girls. Give him enough time and space to choke on and allow him to come to you. No more relationship talks for a while.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
