Thanks! I went through all this before when he turned 40. The only difference was he bailed...literally told me and walked out the door leaving me with D9months and D4 at the time.
I heard all the same things and he ditched us. Didn't see kids much at all. This also happened at 30 when he and his first w divorced.
I did ask if he sees a pattern and what is going to happen when he turns 60...He said "maybe I'll be dead..." Of course, not unexpected.
I am torn about telling my parents. It is going to change their R with him forever no matter how this plays out. I worry about that because they were by me every second the last time so I don't want to cause them worry. Him asking me to hold off? Not sure why he did that.
I need to be still. Not talk about anything and get through the events we have this weekend. Funny thing is we enjoy each others company usually.
