More crazy stuff. We had to talk about some logistical stuff regarding the separation, so we sat down and talked. I had prepared myself so if feeling kinda stuff came up I would listen and validate and have a positive attitude. The conversation was going great - all about who will do what and when - and then it turned into talking about us. She pushed it that direction - I was only along for the ride.
It went well and I did a much better job of listening, validating and even empathizing. A few spots I could have talked too much. Even though it ventured into sad stuff, I kept a positive attitude thinking to myself - this was sad when it happened, but I now know I'm better and won't repeat those mistakes. That way of thinking really helped and I think it made the entire conversation go well. I even felt some connection that we haven't had in years.
I'm still expecting this to end in D, but I will not stop trying and I am glad I have found a better way of communicating that leads to connection.
