Headed for D - Trying to move on

[Painter]

So I plan on texting STBXW later this morning to tell her that my schedule will not allow me to come home earlier.

CWOL, I understand your statement about letting her figure out what it is like to D. The problem is she already knows because I was working so many hours last year that she already felt like she did not have an H. So now I will be doing the same thing and she will feel like I put my job over her. A 180 would be to come home early so she can leave, it will get me more time with the boys which is great, but when my mother was in the hospital because she had a stroke, my STBXW did not even go and visit.

I like FIL and do not wish any harm to him but I am conflicted on how to handle this. STBXW wants to get home early so that she can get some rest because she is not a morning person.

I could also speculate that she is completely lying so she can go back to Toronto to have a good time with OM. Don't even know or care anymore. I always accommodated her when it was critical but now I feel like I don't owe her much.

How is this putting your children first?

Do you realize how she can use this against you in a custody case?

It's not up to you to teach W any lessons. This is not about her, but about your kids. You need to be there for the kids when she isn't. Your decision seems to be coming from a place of pride and vindictiveness. Don't you get that the more she dumps the kids on you, the better your chances are to get custody?

Document each instance and take the kids every chance you get.