So he stuck it in your face for the 1st H-initiated sexual encounter in 5 years? Smooth. That's like "James Bond Smooth." If I did that to my W, she'd bite it off...except she can't open her mouth far enough to get it in, but that's a whole other story.
Anyway, so then you got "stiffed" that night (in the bad sense of the word), and then he bobbled your boobs. Did I mention he was smooth?
I think you're justified feeling mad. Feeling frustrated. Feeling short-changed. Can you talk to him about this, or is it worth it. Has he ever initiated in a sexy manner ever?
Hairdog: who's learned to keep his hands and his weiner to himself.