Looking at your history, I see there was a period apart last year. How does this compare with what happened then?
Last time I was in so much pain, that I basically took ALL the blame for the split. Looking back, this was a big mistake. She never owned her piece. I was happy to accept all the blame as long as she was back in my life.
This time, I am not taking all the blame. And I won't be a doormat just to keep her in my life. Sure, there were things I could have done better. But, there were lots of things she could have done better as well. I won't accept all the blame this time. She would have to show me through her actions that she is working on herself.
