Headed for D - Trying to move on

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In this case, I would suggest to let STBXW figure it out. She has choices she can make. She doesn't *need* to go to Toronto... she choose to stay near her father.

So now I will be doing the same thing and she will feel like I put my job over her. A 180 would be to come home early so she can leave....

You need to be able to provide for your family. Leaving work early and spending more money will not help you do that. While you may not have made the best choices in the past with regards to working a lot, that doesn't mean you should do the opposite now. You still need to look out for the best interest of your kids and yourself. Leaving work early to convenience her, is not necessary. If this was your son having an MRI, that's a different story.