One of the arguments I had with W before all this happened was that I found some messages to her friends were she kept telling them I was depressed. I was depressed 8/9 years ago and knew it wasn't the same. For me it was her falling into depression, she asked me to read a book she had many years ago and I only read it over the Christmas holidays. I saw things from my time all those years ago but saw so much of what she was going through now. Of course, trying to tell her that was the same as her trying to tell me all those years ago.
I am on the same page as you regarding kids, I wil make a future with them and make it great, it could be enhanced by my W (the one I knew before) but will make it great for them and me either way.
The roller coaster theme makes me laugh because my W always called our relationship a roller coaster. It sure has had its ups and downs but she felt the only way to get off was to walk away. Instead it just puts us on a different one.
