Ok, so technically I'm not supposed to be hanging around here. Damn this site is addictive. Enough about me.
Quote: Oh well go find some one to touch and kiss you
Lee, It sounds like there is a MUCH bigger problem than the physical intimacy. Granted, we HDs all need sex to keep us focused on the repair of the other areas and I hate the suggestion that you have to repair a,b,c,d and e just to get to F. But it really sounds like some of these things need be repaired simultaneously and the process needs to be laid out with W first. My W acts oblivious as well but I'm finally getting her to admit that there are some "cracks" in the foundation...not just a lack of desire. The other thing that can be causing this delusional state in your W is that she might be scared to address R problems because it will require her to address "something" deep inside her.
If she truly told you to find somebody else to provide this for you, then that would indicate a pretty serious issue. I would not approach her now over that comment but I would wait till she says something like that again and really ask her to qualify that. Ask her if she's serious. Man, that's a tough one because in some ways she "askin' for it". Maybe she's looking for an excuse to validate her feelings. Pushing you towards a PA would completely provide her with an excellent excuse to become permanently "frigid".
Hey wait a min...do you live in Utah? Can't you get another wife while keeping the one you have?
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
