Way to go, Painter!!!! You rock, and I am so pleased for you.

JujuB, I'm not advocating for anyone to start or stay in a relationship with a serial cheater. I just understand what Painter is saying about the heart being beyond the control of our intellect. Our brains tell us one thing, but our hearts don't always cotton to the idea.

In the other hand, can I forgive someone for cheating? Yes. I think I can, because I know that I am also imperfect, that I once wanted something I wasn't getting in my marriage. Would I take my WH back? Well, that's another thing altogether, and a choice I may never get the opportunity to make.

H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16