Life's a Dance-One Step Forward and Two Steps Back

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So H thinks that I think that he is "trying to" end his A, but I know that is a lie!!

He wants to have a talk tomorrow night after work, away from the house. I say "Because you leaving in June?" He says "I do not know." I say "I will not share you." He says "I know." I say "I do not think you do." He says "If the situation was reversed, I would not even be able to look at you right now."

So I am uncertain what the conversation will be about, but I need to set some boundaries. If he wants to have A, then he needs to leave in June. If he wants to work on marriage then get some balls and tell her that A is over and NO CONTACT!---Is that too ultimatum-ish??

I just cannot go on with this back and forth/ in and out anymore. Its killing me!!

I reached out to an MC, she says counseling is worth it as long as both parties are willing. It would start off more like discernment counseling, with more individual counseling, until the couple decides all other relationships are done and are ready to repair this relationship. If we get to that point, we move into actual couples counseling. I am still uncertain if this is worth it right now. Any thoughts on this?