Question for Sandi or anyone who care to answer: my WW has done some really mean and malicious things. Is the WW aware that she is being really rotten to me or is she so wrapped up in her rationalizations that she is unaware? Does she truly believe that I deserve everything I get from her? Will there ever be remorse for these things?
RAI, From my own interactions with my WW, I'm sure she is aware what she is doing to me. However, she justifies in her head that since I've been mean to her all 18 years of marriage, and made her unhappy, she is justified in trying to take as much as she can from me, and trying to get me a taste of my own medicine. She has re-written history and tweaked facts to suit her own story (which is why I'm glad I got my story out first to our friends). She feels totally justified in claiming her "fair share" of stuff and if it hurts me, so be it. Will she ever feel remorse? I don't know. She did in the first EA 17 years ago, I believe. But now I'm not so sure. Anyway, it's really up to her, not us, to come out of Affair Fog.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
